Thursday, October 18, 2012

Are Werewolves Monsters? Is Sandusky a Monster?


Looking at this picture, the question, "Are werewolves monsters?" seems like a silly question.  Yes, that is definately a monster.  But what if I posted another picture of "him" in his human form?

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Now we see just a "nice old man", not a monster, right?  This could be your neighbor, your Uncle Stuart, or your child's soccer coach.

I recently read an editoral that talked about this very problem.  It said that almost all adults say that they would speak up if they thought a child was being harmed  And yet statistics show that they don't.  Why is that?

They said it is because too often, particularly when we are thinking about abuse, we think in black and white, good and evil, and we are reluctant to switch Uncle Stuart from good to evil.  So we make excuses and we do nothing.   The article suggested that it would help if we change our thinking to recognize that sometimes "good people" can do bad things.

I think this editorial was spot on, because how many times have you heard it on the news...someone is arrested for whatever reason, and the new station interviews the neighbors who say, without fail, "I don't believe it.  He is such a nice guy."

Well, sometimes "nice guys" do bad things.

Sometimes "bad guys" are teenagers.  The average age most offenders start molesting is 14 yrs. 

I work with teenage sex offenders, and they are not monsters.  (I work graveyard, I don't actually do any kind of "therapy" with them, as you can imagine that would be quite impossible for me right now.)  I wake them up for school, I joke with them, and I am genuinely pleased when they do well in the program.  They are "offenders" for certain, but they are not monsters.

Most offenses are committed by someone the victim knows.  So imagine that you notice that cousin Stuart is exhibting suspicious behavior...wanting to shower with your child, or spend time alone, sleep in the same bed...what should you do?

You don't have to move Cousin Stuart to the "evil" catagory.  You can tell yourself that he is a good guy with a problem if that helps.  But then you must act to help the child and to help Cousin Stuart...or Uncle Stuart, Grandpa Stuart or Coach Stuart....whomever it is. 

  1. First we must protect his potential victims.  Did you know the average "coach offender" molests 100's of boys?  Stop and take a moment to think about that...100's of lives damaged.  Hundred's of boys going through the same kinds of things you have read here on my blog.  We have to say something.  
  2. You will be helping "Stuart" by bring attention to his actions.  If he is truly innocent, then he needs to stop exhibitng risky behavior.  If he is offending he needs to stop.  Christians are sometimes reluctant to pursue prosecution because they want to be "forgiving".  To them I say "mercy cannot rob justice".  It would be better for him to be stopped from sinning, and deal with the consequences here, than in the next life...
I can't stress this enough.  There were people that saw "red flags" with Sandusky and yet did nothing.  And because he was not stopped many more lives were damaged.  You know the quote, "The only thing necessary for evil to flourish is for good men to say nothing." 

I hope you will stand up and say, "Not on my watch."  Let's protect the children from the monsters "good people" who do evil acts.  If you don't stand up for the children, who will?















4 comments:

  1. I have had to report someone for sexually abusing a little 7 year old girl. He had a no contact order from a different Child Services unit. They interviewed the little girl at school, she lied knowing that she would be beaten if she told the truth. Children Services allowed this man to stay in the home (where he had a no contact order). My heart still breaks for the little girl 10 years later.

    We have to be a voice for children. Child abusers may not look like monsters but to the children they abuse they ARE monsters.

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  2. I agree Margaret! We need to listen to the children and support them when they speak out.

    I am truly sorry for that girl you tried to help. There is so much wrong right now it is hard to know where to begin.

    I admit, when I speak of my abuser I rarely use his name, I just call him "The Monster". That is actually where I got the idea for this post. To me he was a werewolf, other people only saw the man, but I saw the man and the monster.

    Sadly, people seem to worry more about "hurting a man's reputation" than protecting children, and that is the reason for this post. :)

    Thanks for commenting!

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  3. You are so right Leslie, I really don't understand people that see abuse and don't speak up for the Victim. Esp. a Child victim. Those people that see the signs and say nothing... will Also be punished in the here-after along with the abuser. They will have to feel that Childs Pain. That is what I believe! AND YES SANDUSKY IS A MONSTER!

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  4. As a Christian, I have no problem prosecuting. Turn them in if you suspect abuse of any kind. Let them be investigated, and find out. The children must come first.

    The Sandusky case makes my blood boil. He should have been stopped. I can not believe the amount of adults involved that passed the buck, so to speak. You can let a supervisor know, but take it upon yourself to go to the police with what you know. If you are an eyewitness, go and tell the authorities and make sure you've done everything in your power to protect the innocent. No excuses.

    I want to say a hello to you, Leslie. I still occasionally make it over here to read. I'm not on as much anymore, keep healing.

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